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You care about doing a good job and you care about the people around you.

You often take your responsibilities seriously and want to be someone others can rely on.

The difficulty is that somewhere along the way, your confidence in yourself has become tangled up with the opinions, expectations, and approval of others.

Often Self Doubt is linked with people pleasing. This can encompass several fears, the fear that you will disappoint someone else, fear of not being liked, fear of being judged, fear of being “found out” (imposter syndrome). When you constantly aim to please other people you will have a hard time saying no.

Fear of mistakes will stop you moving forward but the need to help others will drive you. This puts you in the position of self-doubt. You are doing the work but never get to completion in a satisfactory way. Over time, this can create the feeling that you are not capable enough or not good enough. When you look back at what went wrong in the past you look at it as your failing.

"What is wrong with me?" rather than "What could have been done differently?"

You can often be more motivated by what others think or expect, over what you want or expect for yourself. This means you can take on too much responsibility and feel like you are drowning under the weight of it. It can feel as though there is always something else that needs your attention, another responsibility to carry, another person to help, another task to complete.

What is really happening

People often assume that self-doubt means a lack of confidence, but that isn't always true.

Many people in this group are capable, intelligent, caring, and hardworking. The problem is not that they cannot do the task. The problem is that they do not fully trust themselves.

You may find yourself constantly looking for reassurance, wondering what other people think, or worrying that you will make the wrong decision.

You might spend so much time trying to avoid mistakes, disappointing others, or getting things wrong that taking action becomes difficult.

Over time, this can create a frustrating cycle.

=> You hesitate because you doubt yourself.

=> The hesitation creates delay.

=> The delay becomes evidence that something is wrong.

=> And that evidence creates even more self-doubt.

You may spend so much time looking for certainty that you forget something important:

Nobody starts with certainty.

Confidence is built through action, not before it.

More often, confidence is something we build by not just taking action, but learning from experience, and proving to ourselves that we can handle whatever happens next.

The goal is not to become fearless.

The goal is to trust yourself enough to take the next step, even when you are uncertain.

What Will Help You Most

Build evidence for yourself

Keep a list of achievements.
Notice what you have already handled successfully.

Protect your time

Plan your week.
Prioritise your own commitments.

Reduce people pleasing

Practice saying no.
Notice when you are taking responsibility for other people's feelings.

Take action before confidence arrives

Confidence grows through doing.
Small actions build self-trust.

The good news?

Self-doubt is not who you are.

It is a pattern that has been learned over time.

And anything that has been learned can be changed.

With awareness, practice, and the right tools, you can learn to trust yourself more, quiet the inner critic, and move forward with greater confidence.